You will understand why it’s important to reward yourself and how to do so.

Rewarding myself is a habit that I began a few years ago when a therapist helped me notice that I was new to the idea of celebrating and rewarding myself for any progress or milestones I’ve made.

I find that there are a few individuals who have encouraged me to reward myself such as therapists, my therapist colleague, employers, supervisors and coaches. I didn’t know there existed the idea of rewarding myself on my own while I began my adult years.

When I began this habit, I was so new to it that I felt guilty about it. I thought…


My journey going from feeling unworthy and rejected to knowing I’m good enough and beautiful

Life hasn’t been easy growing up in my shoes. My past includes moments living with many difficult challenges such as feeling rejected, frequently striving to be a perfectionist, being a victim of emotional abuse, not knowing where I belong or who I was, not knowing what I really like to do, feeling ashamed that I come from divorced parents and have struggled with many more challenges growing up.

I decided to share a few basic things that have helped me tremendously in my journey, in hopes that you or someone you know who is going through a rough time in…


From self-doubts to changing my thinking to this positive thought: “passing the exam is part of my calling.”

Earlier this year, I found out that I passed the Marital and Family Therapy National Examination.

Here are fun and interesting facts:

  1. I prayed to God that I would pass this test, that the passing score would match how I did in the test
  2. I studied A LOT. I spent a lot of my free time studying alone and also with a group of people whom I met in a Facebook group who were also focusing on the same goal
  3. I researched…


Gain New Perspective and Reset your Process

In 2017, I felt kind of lost after I spent several years working in what I knew I enjoyed doing, which was counseling children, teenagers and adults. Maybe I worked too much and I needed to focus on other aspects of my life. I didn’t know where God was calling me to but I knew that deep inside of me, I wanted to serve my church. So that’s what I did.

I used to volunteer at the children’s ministry at my church and from the moment I started there, I realized I really enjoyed playing with the babies at the…


If we don’t talk about it, it can easily be ignored

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, burnout is an “exhaustion of physical or emotional strength or motivation usually as a result of prolonged stress or frustration.” So in simple words, burnout happens as a result of dealing with long periods of stress or frustration.

My hope is that these strategies will help you avoid burnout.

After you recognize it, accept it for now

Once you recognize that you are burnout, work on accepting that you have it. Because when we are in denial, we do thing as if we are okay and we sometimes pretend with other people…


Adulting tips inside

The quote “be the change you want to see” is easier said than done. I used to be someone who didn’t think I could be the change I want to see. During my late teens and my 20s, I just wanted to avoid the mistakes of those who raised me and not do what they did. I used to blame family for the things I couldn’t do well and had a hard time choosing to take responsibility for what was on my part to do.

After several years of receving counseling, mentoring and coaching, I came to realize that I…


Photo by 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

Let’s focus on what we can get done when we delay or ignore social media time

A study by the University of California in Irvine found that it takes an average of 23 minutes and 15 seconds to get yourself back on track after being interrupted. And nowadays, social media access is one of those things that can interrupt us from getting more done.

We don’t have to be stuck using social media and procrastinating on other more important things. Self-affirmations are positive phrases we tell ourselves to focus on the positive. I’m hoping the picture above will help me share with you about a brief lesson I learned of seeing the power of saying self-affirmations…


Sharing Strategies in 21 Videos of what Helped me Learn and Pass a Comprehensive Exam

In July of 2019, I scheduled a very important comprehensive state exam for my work during that time. I remember having annoying self-doubful thoughts that made me feel not capable of passing the exam. Nevertheless, I tried my bess to prepare. And then, in August 2020, I took the exam and passed it in the first try.

Here is a self-guided list of tips I shared through a series of Live videos on my Facebook business page. My hope is that these strategies would help…


As I write this on July 27, 2019, I’m going through what seems like the longest season of singleness, maybe it feels this way because people I know are married or in a relationship. There has been days when I didn’t care about my single status and there has been also days when I wondered if I had to stay this way.

But overall, there is a lot I’ve learned about myself and about those in other seasons of life that I want to share in hopes that this will give perspective to anyone reading this. For those who are…

Liliana

Marriage and Family Therapist living in WA, Writing stories to encourage you to stay balanced and focused through prayer, strategies and mental health ed.

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